By Albert Ellis, Arthur Lange
With a brand new Foreword by means of Raymond A. DiGiuseppe, Ph.D.
CLASSIC SELF-HELP FROM A revered PIONEER OF PSYCHOTHERAPY
Anger. It’s one among our most elementary, and sometimes such a lot harmful, human feelings. And in today’s global, it’s a continuing, escalating strength, from street rage to household abuse, from youngster violence to acts of terrorism. greater than ever we'd like powerful how one can stay with it, comprehend it—and discover ways to take care of it. This landmark ebook from world-renowned psychotherapist Dr. Albert Ellis, author of Rational Emotive habit remedy (REBT), exhibits you how.
Presented in an easy step by step application that anybody can grasp, the confirmed, time-tested ideas of REBT educate you to regulate or even get rid of anger, with no sacrificing helpful assertiveness. the following you’ll discover:
*What precisely is anger, and should you consider it?
*How you create your individual anger*Methods of considering, feeling, and appearing your approach out of anger
*Why retaining directly to anger is typically fun—and find out how to allow it go
*How to take advantage of REBT to deal with tragic occasions which are a long way past our control
…and even more, together with quite a few real-world case reviews, plus a accomplished, severe research of many of the ways to this age-old challenge. no matter if at domestic or at paintings, in a private or political context, this leap forward process will make it easier to take keep watch over of the anger which may stand within the method of luck and happiness.
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Additional resources for Anger: How to Live with and without It
Usually you can more quickly, easily, and importantly change your feelings as you change your thinking than you can change your thinking by modifying your feelings. But the reverse is also often true. Just how much do your feelings about something cause you to change your thinking? You frequently know that you desire to act in a manner that you believe is highly undesirable. When such feelings become extremely strong or urgent, you may act in a manner contrary to your own beliefs. When you act this way, you often rationalize so as to alter, at least temporarily, certain beliefs.
Rational Beliefs (don’t like) and Healthy Consequences (disappointment) Yet we find that at UC, your Unhealthy Consequence or disturbed feeling, you are angry at me as well as disappointed with my behavior. You find your anger unmanageable and self-defeating, and therefore unhealthy. Using the REBT method, I help you seek the Irrational Beliefs (IBs) that led to your Unhealthy Consequence (raging at me). • Irrational Belief and Unhealthy Consequence (anger) To locate your IBs we use the method of logical, empirical checking, designed to discover any illogical or unempirical ideas you might hold at B.
In concluding this chapter, let us return to our REBT model and the illustration we have presented and use REBT methods to work through your problem of being angry at me. You entered into an agreement with me whereby we would share an apartment. Your part consisted of your getting the place ready and furnishing it and mine with moving in with you. From that point we would share all expenses equally. At the last minute, and without sufficient notice or reason, I withdrew from my portion of the agreement—after you had fulfilled your part of the agreement.
Anger: How to Live with and without It by Albert Ellis, Arthur Lange